Socializing is Way Easier Then We Think

A concept that keeps getting brought to my attention and I have to reflect on constantly is this idea that people resort to comfort. 

When it comes to meeting new people, introducing yourself, and starting a conversation, this can be a very intimidating thing. Putting this into the context where one person is maybe in their safe space, or are in authority in some way, it is natural for them to be in the place of comfort. When taken out of this place of safety or someone new enters a space, all sense of this uncertainty starts to unfold. 

But what if we just embraced the role of taking initiative. To start the first conversation, introduce yourself, and even the playing field. Chances are they are more intimidated to approach you than for you to say the first word or share the first interaction.

I think all too easily we get in our own heads about how a person might react. We have preconceived ideas about who they are, what they would say, or how they may act. Nine times out of ten we are wrong. We build up these scenarios in our head just to lead to the opposite result. They are welcoming of a conversation and honored by the interaction. 

The power of human connection is what shapes us and is part of our DNA. We are designed with a longing for human interaction. So when someone steps out and initiates we can’t help but reciprocate. 

I challenge you to be that person. Be the person that steps out in confidence and says “Hi” first. You just never know who you’ll meet and what will come out of a simple interaction. And interaction that comes not from a place of comfort but one of confidence in a design for our benefit.